“Making your relationship more secure”

“When you’ve established an attachment bond with another person, it means that you have essentially become their primary attachment figure, and they have become yours.  This is true even when you’re in conflict, are unhappy with one another, or are in different parts of the world.  On a fundamental level, we’re oriented toward a primary attachment figure.  We are built for connection for our entire life; it’s not something that goes away.  Accordingly, it’s a good idea to keep that bond with our significant other in good condition and make it stronger over time.”  

-Diane Poole Heller, PhD, The Power Of Attachment